Saturday, October 27, 2007


I was reading through the book "The Greatness Guide" by Robin Sharma. Nice book. Quite inspiring too. Yet onething he never mentioned was about managing expectations.

It's difficult to be happy till you set the right expectations for yourself and for others. What others expect from you is important to know or else you can't keep them happy. Each time you fail to meet them, it hurts them.

But I have a fundamental doubt. Should I expect anything from anybody. I am human like all others and do have expectations from others or atleast from whom I love the most. But sometimes the way they behave it hurts. All the expectations gets shattered. Is it a failure from their end to manage my expectations or is it my failure to expect the wrong thing from them?

I don't know what is the answer to that. Yet now I feel that you can be happy only by not expecting anything from anybody. There are no exceptions to these - your parents, your spouse or your friends.

I might be sounding negative yet this is so true. Feel it when you are let down by someone whom you love a lot. And you will come and tell me...Rahul what you said was so right.

Yet we all are human and we start expecting again....we stumble we fall and we get up....the cycle continues.

-- Rahul


At 9:46 AM, Blogger Pragnesh said...

A post after a long time :) Nice to read.... A very truthful observation.

At 10:51 PM, Anonymous cubicleanimal said...

I agree to disagree!. Well, the whole idea behing "managing expectations" is that not only you tell others (in different ways) what they can expect from you, but also tell them (again, in different ways) what you expect from them. Over time, people around you will realize your behavior pattern and will start meeting your expectations.
Now, when someone starts doing this, problem arise because, as you said we are humans and being imperfect is natural to us. But I believe the most successful people are the ones who by practice, tend to have less conflicts over time with expectations both ways, than the ones that are highly unsuccessful.

At 12:22 AM, Blogger harsh said...

Having no expectations from anybody! Hmmm... this is exactly what should be followed in personal life, but not in professional life! Dot on target about not expecting anything from anybody! Life becomes very easy once you get into that mode of self-sufficiency.

At 2:40 AM, Blogger barb michelen said...

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At 12:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation...Always do right--this will gratify some and astonish the rest.

At 9:32 PM, Anonymous saadia said...

very good :)


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