Path to Solitutde

There is a great song in Bengali which says:

"Jodi Tor Daak Shune Keu Naa Aashe Toh Ekla Cholo Re"

Most of the time in life you have to face and solve problems alone. Today we emphasize on team work and coordination etc etc but at the atomic level you have to pull up your sleeves and get down to work. Well it's a good thing to do but not always.

At work we try to do our job what we have on the plate and we forget things most of time when we go out of the office. The theme of team work however cannot be drawn to life. In life you have to move alone most of the time. There are people who care for you and try to help you out but again it's you who can help yourself in the best way. You have to take the hard decisions and face the consequences as well.

Still given an opportunity we always try to find someone who can support us and provide us the inner strength. Well I don't say it's wrong yet I feel it makes you weak. But again you always need people who support you in difficult times.

This is a catch-22 situation. The best way to get out of it is remain detached so that you are emotionally not dependent on others.

This is something very difficult to achieve and invariably we get attached. Not a bad thing again. But as somebody said to me once "Everything comes for a price" and if you are ready to pay for it then go for it....

May be this song by Shaan can appeal to those who are really willing to do that:

Aankho mein sapne liye
Ghar se hum chal toh diye
Jaane yeh raahein ab le jayengi kahan
Mitti ki khushbu aaye
Palko mein aansu laaye
Palko pe reh jaayega yaado ka jahan
Manzil anjaani ha anjaana hai kaarwaan
Chalna akele hai yahan
Tanha dil tanha safar
Dhundhe tujhe phir kyu nazar

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Mehfuz

It feels so good when you are surrounded by those who love you...care for you...they provide you the unseen shield of warmth and protection.... you are never left out...you don't care for the world...you have no pains...no sufferings...because there are so many who carry you through when you face the most difficult phase in life..

Each moment of life looks beautiful...so many things to say...so many to listen to you...friends & family or that special person... they are all with you... you share each achivement...each moment...and they listen...they rejoice with you...when you are down they make you smile by cracking jokes...or anything which brings back your smile...which is so valuble to them...

Such is the life with them....we never think what would be life without them till they are with us...

And....One day you leave them or they leave you...you move apart...fate seems to play a role which is indomitable... you lose out.. It is that time we realize what have we are missing in life...when those who made our life..are no more with me...

We live by remembering them each day each moment...it's so difficult when you remember them and you are not with them...

Yet life goes on...we meet new people...make new friends...and again they make your life wonderful...

So "Take Life as it comes" and be happy for what you have now...............:-)

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A few moments of life

Its strange sometimes when we reflect on our past... we always feel why did this happened to me and not to others... what wrong did I do that I have to go through the sufferings which others don't have to face....We are very sticky about such situation...We always try to build up things the way we want to perceive and feel that we are the ones who suffered the most....

I too do the same to be honest...I too feel my sufferings had been the most...We glorify it...we make it larger than life...and try to say that we emerged victorious even after we went through those hardships...

Well the important thing to note here is those difficult days actually makes a man out of a boy....you learn...you gain confidence...you emerge as the best...till you don't see the bad...you never appreciate the beautiful...

It's good to remember one's past....the place we came from...our roots...but again being sticky to the sufferings of the past does nothing but pulls you down...

I have always believed in moving ahead in life... my quest is to live life every moment...

Life is too short to crib about things which is now history.... get over it... smile at yourself... and Move on....

There is a beautiful song by the "The Corrs" - "Everybody Hurts" - which says...hold on even when everybody hurts....because you hold on to see the best...when the worst is gone...

So hold on............ Life is beautiful.......May be somebody is waiting for you...who will give you all the warmth and comfort you need..... :-)....

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The Lost Mobility

I remember a jingle which I heard during my school days:

Girna nahi gir ke sambhalna hai zindagi
Rukne ka naam maut hai chalna hai zindagi

I still believe in it..and believe in it strongly...But this seems to be an oxymoron sometimes. Is that you should always be on the move...is that you should never settle down...are you a wagabond...well if I ask these questions...the obvious answer is "no"....

A time comes in life....when you have to set your mind on certain things....it can be anything...a place to work...a city to live in or the more important part...a partner for life....

This lost mobility can be blissful, sacred and enjoyable. Yet life is much beyond all this...you have to give back to the society, the country and everybody around you....

I have always valued my work beyond anything else...and may be it's my partner for life...so I will move with it...wherever it takes me....till the day I live...I will move ... because

Rukne ka naam maut hai chalna hai zindagi......

The Sky - My inspiration

It's a bright sunny day... the clear sky and the gentle breeze seems so soothing ... as if it was trying to say something to me....

Everyday we wake up with so many things in mind ... our immediate work at hand doesn't really allow us to think beyond the usual... we are not able to clear up our mind from the daily goals ... can we really be like the bright clear sunny sky... not really .. even the sky is overcast sometimes...so it's part of life.... Just that we should keep ourselves reminding... at some point of time we need to purify our thoughts and be like the clear sky...

In the night the sky is lit by millions of stars... I like watching them and I watch them for hours sometimes... when I am lonely... they signify to me a sense of camaraderie when millions of them stand beside each other....hand in hand.... but again there are few who are far apart... lonely... all by themselves...they don't have a choice....we do.....

Life to me is made of little things which brings you great happiness... your success is nothing if you have nobody to share with...

I have always believed that a Smile can do wonders...it can break barriers...it can improve relationships...it can bring happiness to others....it can heal a painful heart...it can remind you of the golden days...

Today the sky is smiling at me... and reminding me not to forget the same even when you face those overcast days....when nothing goes in your favour.....

So keep smiling :-)

The Journey Begins

Yesterday I saw a post on my friend's blog. Rachit had been with us for an year at XLRI before he left for IIMC. His blog was really inspiring..something which touched me..may be the honesty with which he wrote about his follies...rather difficult to see...when most of us try to pose as a strong person to the world...and hide our insecurities...it's his inspiration I am trying to pen down my thoughts and this will be my open dairy...

Life has moved on and when I look back now it seems I had been gifted with so many things and also lost so many things in life..yet I am not sad about it. Just that somethings were too valuable to lose. Why did I lose them? If I ask this question a few things which strikes my mind..may be sometimes I never tried to understand the other person..I always kept on thinking how can this person being so close to me say such things to me...

Well..may be I was asking the other person to be god...and not human...asking for too much...and in the process I lost them...It's so painful...still we suffer the pain...why cudn't I overcome that small barrier which was stopping me to talk to them.....they were important still I commited the mistake....there is no coming back from that point....they are gone....

But life stops for none...10 years...was a long gap...days passed...Mohit called me up...I was working at the Accenture office...

It was just another afternoon...I couldn't believe it was him...my best friend...in school days...and we didn't talk for 10 long years...and suddenly I get a call from him...

Recall the movie "Dil Chahta Hai"...well life also sometimes seems like a movie...a cliched statement but guess it holds true...

That phone call made my day....I was the happiest person on earth....I always wanted to talk to him...but again a few incidents of the past stopped me....

It took 10 years for him also to break the barrier...... but now it's broken..and gone :-)